Shame

I recently started working on some deeper healing with a woman I met at an event and it had me begin to recognize really how much some experiences from when I was younger shaped who I became … until I started unlearning and reframing my entire being.

Shame - we all have it and according to Bréne Brown, it is one of the most primitive emotions. Generally caused by something in our childhood because our parents did the best they could with what they were taught.

Shame caused me to act small, for too long.

I experienced shame surrounding my body; the natural cycle of a woman; my differences of opinion (to name a few).

It was a couple of little comments, harmless and with no intent to harm (I am sure) that essentially programmed all of that.

but from those moments on (maybe even before), I had begun living a life that had me need to be accepted by others.

Otherwise, I would feel ashamed.

Not living in my own full truths.

&I can guarantee that there are so many people out there who can relate, maybe not in specifics but in the feeling.

It is a cycle that I carried on through the choices I used to make.

Until I made a conscious choice to start speaking to myself kinder, to forgive myself for the things I did before I knew better (or even respected myself), committing to growth and healing.. and most importantly, recognizing my own worth.