I wouldn’t have been
Recently a comment was made to me: “Well you turned out okay, didn’t you?”
I didn’t answer it the way that I should have, because the truth is that I wouldn’t have turned out “okay” if I hadn’t started doing the work on myself.
I used to envision myself as the old woman at the end of the bar in her pearls, drinking beer - and if you’re asking me, there is nothing good or inspirational about that vision.
Sure, I would have been okay because I would have had a roof over my head, a job, the stuff that society says you need… but I can almost guarantee that that woman would have had significant mental health struggles (it was already beginning); would still be apologizing for being a nuisance/ needing any support; pleasing others before she pleased herself.
It was ME that had to take radical responsibility (we’ve talked about this before) for myself and start making the choices that were going to catapult me into a new way of living.
The one that dreams of having no reliance on the system and is free; embodying this as much as I can now, knowing that our thoughts depict what is actually created for us.
While I don’t hold blame for the way that I was raised (I know the society we grow up in), I know that I was given safety and parents who loved the best way that they know how, I also know that they passed along a lot of things that they didn’t even necessarily realize were going on in themselves.
No blame, just nothing that I want to continue throughout this lifetime of mine.
While I believe that there are MANY ways to start incorporating change and not following the same path that was laid out for you, here are some things that I have been through and play a HUGE role:
Spending time with/ following people who are on a path of growth (whatever that looks like to them). When you are surrounded by people who are doing it for themselves, you start to see the possibilities in your own life.
Stepping into your own worth, recognizing how powerful you are as you are. This is easier said than done, but I believe that when we start to recognize our own worth and unravel the stories that we have told ourselves for so long, we make drastic changes.
Implementing good habits for ourselves. I have talked about this for a long time! I believe that when we start to implement good things in our lives, it trickles out to the rest of our lives; having us handle the stressors of life with more ease, and giving us the courage to take leaps into things that are scary. #speakingfromexperience
I created a book to give you some tools to support this, click here to get access
Clearing out the toxins: allll the chemicals and gunk that we clean ourselves and our homes with, clog up our cells, keep us bogged down, and can play a role in how we move about our entire lives.
Gratitude: when we are able to see the good things in life, and get out of that negativity cycle that again bogs us down, life becomes more beautiful.
Presence: Getting off the phones/ whatever we are using to keep us distracted and be present will make it so that the days are not flying by so quickly and we actually remember where our time has gone.
