Survival Mode

A state that has us living in need to appease and being liked. Flying by the seat of our pants, constantly distracted and doing anything and everything to disconnect us from our true selves, going through the motions of life without taking a moment to pause, always… so tired.

In a way, it is easier - if you’re prepared to live a life of exhaustion; tension; dare I say, disease.

But it means we do not have to deal with all of our hurts, which some may argue is worse- we grow up disconnecting from our lived experiences, not to mention from those that came before us. Living in a world that utilizes distraction over really dealing with it. Allowing it to lie stagnant in our bodies.

There is no shame to be had here if you find yourself in survival mode. We all tend to go back there sometimes. Survival mode is engrained throughout our bloodline. A reaction to threats perceived by our stories and narratives, what our nervous systems are literally designed to do.

Unless we change the direction.

Changing direction through the thoughts that inhabit you, the rituals you embody, and who you surround yourself with.

I guarantee when it is good/ understanding thoughts, positive rituals and people that serve you (not in a physical manner, but rather in a contribute to your growth manner), it will be easier to step into the flow of who you are. To get out of the exhaustion; need to please; move about life as a means ‘to do’ rather that ‘to be"‘ state.

Some more notes on survival mode, because it is not always as easy as it may seem above. As noted about our nervous system, significant events cause our reactions to resort back to what feels comfortable. Safe (not in actuality, but rather what your body knows). Out of habit.

It takes a lot of work to reframe these.

InTune to keep present, Adaptiv to bring your body back to homeostasis and pause for a moment.

Reflection: what was I doing when my survival mode tendencies took over?

What is it about that moment that triggered my response?

Where does this stem from?

(try and continue the pattern of questions if you can, each going a layer deeper from your previous response).

Deep breaths as you remind yourself that you are doing the best you can.